RELATIONSHIPS
From Issue #42
Getting Deep
Your tough questions answered
Q&A with Dr. Dorothy
AT 14 YEARS OLD, I AM 5’1” AND HAVE
DOUBLE-D-SIZED BREASTS. IS IT TOO EARLY
FOR ME TO CONSIDER BREAST REDUCTION?
First off, it’s important to know that breasts continue
to grow and change at least until your early
20s. For this reason, and to make sure that patients
understand the seriousness of the surgery,
plastic surgeons typically do not recommended
performing breast reduction surgery before the
age of 18.
If you haven’t already, consider researching
and interviewing board-certified plastic surgeons
who have a great deal of experience in breast
reduction and, if possible, come highly referred.
These surgeons will be able to assess and help
determine what procedure will best meet your
needs now (if you consider a procedure before
the age of 20) as well as in the long term (if you
need surgery at some later point). It’s most important
to think through all of your options carefully
since the decisions that you make regarding surgery
now will also impact the rest of your life.
I RECENTLY DECIDED
TO INTRODUCE MY
GIRLFRIEND TO MY
FRIENDS AND FAMILY.
HOWEVER, THINGS DID
NOT TURN OUT AS I EXPECTED—
NONE OF MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY
LIKED HER. THEY POINTED OUT BAD
QUALITIES THAT I NEVER NOTICED
INCLUDING THAT SHE SUPPOSEDLY
CHANGED ME NEGATIVELY. I REALLY
DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I LOVE
MY GIRLFRIEND, BUT MY FAMILY AND
FRIENDS DON’T THINK SHE’S GOOD
FOR ME. DO FRIENDS AND FAMILY
REALLY KNOW BEST?
Family and friends
can present another
perspective, often
seeing what you don’t. You should
ask yourself if what others have
noticed has some merit. If truly
none of the most important people
in your life liked your girlfriend,
it might be worth a closer look.
Sometimes in a new relationship we
tend to see that person with rosecoloured
glasses—we can idealize
who we think they are without
seeing them as they are.
I HAVE A PASSION FOR HAIRSTYLING AND REALLY
BELIEVE I HAVE THE TALENT TO BECOME VERY
SUCCESSFUL AT IT. HOWEVER, I COME FROM A LONG
LINE OF DOCTORS AND ENGINEERS IN MY FAMILY,
AND AM PRESSURED BY MY PARENTS TO CHOOSE
ONE OF THOSE PROFESSIONS—HAIRSTYLING IS
JUST COMPLETELY UNHEARD OF. MY PARENTS HAVE
THREATENED TO CUT ME OFF—HELLO, I NEED
COLLEGE FUNDS! SHOULD I FOLLOW MY PASSION AND
FACE THE CONSEQUENCES OR PLEASE MY PARENTS
AND TRY TO BE HAPPY WITH ANOTHER KIND OF JOB?
Think about what will happen if you receive an education for
another profession. How long will you enjoy working in that
field, particularly if you aren’t doing what you are truly passionate
about?
I think it’s wonderful that you already know what career you would like! Trust
that in the end, your parents
just want you to be
successful and happy.
When they see you enjoying
your work they will
ultimately be happy for you.
When you follow your true
passion—whatever that
may be—you will always
be happy....and successful!
For more on Dorothy check out www.dorothyratusny.com
