REAL LIFE
From Issue #5
Keep
Looking...
Is Your "Perfect Someone"
Out There Waiting for You?
By
James Cairns, 18
If
you take a look at the personal ads in your local paper, you
can see that people are always looking for that 'perfect someone.'
Perfection - that's a tall order. Why do we believe this person
is out there?
As human beings, we have become so distracted that we no longer
know what we want. This pertains to our jobs, our friends, and
especially to our 'perfect someone.'
The
media is an obvious target when we try to place blame, but let's
face it, when it comes to the obvious (magazine covers with
skinny, crack addict-like models influencing girls to become
anorexic), the blame becomes monotonous.
How about blaming ourselves for allowing the media to mess with
our minds? It is about time that we acknowledge the fact that
what the media portrays in its ads and programs represents less
than 1% of the population.
Magazines that claim to be able to help you 'get the one you
desire most' are written by lonely people just like us. Television
portrays men and women who are happily in love, when in real
life these actors may be from far it. Wake up, get out of bed,
remove your butt from that indented sofa cushion and take a
long overdue vacation from 'media land!'
Technology has created yet another outlet in our search for
that 'perfect someone.' Before we were limited to our local
surroundings, now we can simply get on the 'information highway
to love.' Here we can meet with people from across the globe
and fall in love with someone in a chat room entitled, 'Lonely
and Looking.' Until reality sets in.
Then we realize that this new love isn't real, but is instead
a figment of our imagination; that in truth we are in love with
words being typed by an unknown entity. That 'perfect someone'
could actually be a criminal typing from their cell. The real
reason he is never free to visit you isn't because the CIA forbids
him from leaving his top-secret mission in Uruguay. It is because
his last appeal didn't work out and in three weeks he is being
transferred to a maximum-security prison!
Have I ruined your fantasy? Already looking through the telephone
book for a psychiatrist? If so, STOP! Deep down we have known
all along that our 'perfect someone' would be impossible to
find.
Now is the time for us to simply enjoy our lives, be ourselves,
and find the one that won't make our dreams, but will share
in them.
